Many families experience this situation known as “nesting”. Let’s face it, you worked hard your entire married lives to secure a home for you and your children. Divorce was never part of the plan. Nonetheless, the divorce is happening. And when it “hits”, it hits hard, and it doesn’t just hit you emotionally. It hits your biggest asset which is, in most cases, your home!
To add to the stress, you read online, or your friend or lawyer tells you that there may be consequences, including legal, if you leave the family home, so you’re pretty much stuck! “Should I stay or should I go?” No one but you can answer this extremely difficult question, but if you choose to stay (and many families are OK/safe to stay) while you engage in negotiation / mediation, you need to plan accordingly. What I mean by this is taking the time to actively create a space where your family continues to live unhindered by the impending breakdown of the marriage, as well as developing a plan to safely navigate the unexpected changes you will be facing during this transitory stage.
Needless to say that if you are living under the same roof during mediation, achieving and maintaining a healthy degree of communication may at times, become challenging.
It’s Not Easy!
It won’t always be easy. In fact, sometimes it will be painfully hard. But as long as you and your former spouse (-to-be) continue to share your home, it is prudent to ensure that you respect each other and the changing nature of your relationship. This is a great opportunity to set the tone for your future relationship as co-parents – or blow it for everyone.
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