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15 Years Later, My Son Thanked Me and My Ex for Using Mediation

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Divorce is never an easy process, especially when children are involved. I know this all too well, having gone through it myself. But looking back now, I am grateful for the collaborative approach my ex-husband and I took during our divorce mediation, and the positive impact it has had on our family.

My biggest concern was my son, Max.

I remember feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what to expect when I first decided to file for divorce. My biggest concern was my son, Max. I wanted to make sure that he would be okay and not feel like he was caught in the middle of his parents' issues. I heard about the damage of going to court and I didn't want that for my family. I knew that mediation was an option and decided to explore it as a way to help us navigate the divorce process in a more peaceful and collaborative way.

Mediation allowed us to work together to create a plan.

Mediation allowed us to work together to create a plan that would best serve Max's needs. We were able to openly discuss our concerns and come up with solutions that we both agreed on. We focused on putting Max's well-being first and making sure he had the support and love he needed during this difficult time.

It wasn't always easy. There were times when emotions ran high and we disagreed on certain issues, but we never lost sight of our goal: to do what was best for Max. And in the end, we were able to come to an agreement that we both felt was fair and equitable.

Max felt the sacrifices his dad and I made... that meant everything to me!

As Max grew older, he began to understand the sacrifices that his father and I had made to ensure his happiness and well-being. He appreciated the collaborative way in which we had approached our divorce and the positive impact it had on his life. He told me that he felt loved and supported by both of us, and that meant everything to me.

When Max's father remarried, it was a day filled with love, forgiveness, and gratitude.

But the real testament to our successful collaboration came when Max's father remarried. I was nervous about how Max would handle the situation, but he surprised me by being excited about his dad's wedding and wanting us all to be there to celebrate. It was an emotional day, but one filled with love, forgiveness, and gratitude for the journey that had led us to that moment.

Looking back now, I am grateful for the collaborative approach my ex-husband and I took during our divorce mediation. It allowed us to put our differences aside and focus on what was most important: our son. And the positive impact it had on our family will be felt for years to come. So to anyone going through a divorce with children, I encourage you to consider mediation and keep your focus on what's truly important: your children's well-being.

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About the Author

Laura Tarcea

Laura is a family mediator dedicated to supporting families through divorce or separation. With a background in Mental Health, Research, Program Development, and a Master of Laws in Dispute Resolution, Laura brings valuable insight and critical knowledge to parents. She strongly believes that a healthy co-parenting relationship will protect children from short-term and long-term damage. As such, Laura is a supporter of out-of-court processes to help equip parents with appropriate tools to succeed in their next chapter.

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